{"id":529,"date":"2015-03-25T07:41:51","date_gmt":"2015-03-25T11:41:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.searchofpeace.com\/blog\/?p=529"},"modified":"2015-04-09T14:56:47","modified_gmt":"2015-04-09T18:56:47","slug":"dont-get-pushed-around-blending-vs-opposition","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.searchofpeace.com\/blog\/2015\/03\/25\/dont-get-pushed-around-blending-vs-opposition\/","title":{"rendered":"Don&#8217;t Get Pushed Around; Blending vs. Opposition"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"474\" height=\"267\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/9X4lpb6wHpk?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;start=138&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Paul Linden works with victims of trauma to develop resources that support post-traumatic growth.  The main focus is on how to change the roles a person plays when comes to conflict. The attached video asks the question what do you do so that someone can&#8217;t push you?<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Aikido uniquely focuses on the relationship between attacker and target; the question is what has to change so you are safe, secure, and in control without knocking someone out or taking one for the team.  Blending is not a passive action, moving out of the way is not giving someone their way; blending is a method of asserting control without opposition.  The focus is on acting in a way that manifests the choice not to be the target of someone else&#8217;s problem while using their energy for resolution.<\/p>\n<p>Aikido asks similar questions with punches, grabs. and falls.  The answer is similar to the Paul Linden&#8217;s exercise for not being pushed, all in terms of choosing your role in conflict.   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