{"id":676,"date":"2016-03-16T03:05:59","date_gmt":"2016-03-16T07:05:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.searchofpeace.com\/blog\/?p=676"},"modified":"2016-03-18T15:43:36","modified_gmt":"2016-03-18T19:43:36","slug":"its-not-about-being-nice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.searchofpeace.com\/blog\/2016\/03\/16\/its-not-about-being-nice\/","title":{"rendered":"It&#8217;s not about being nice&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"fb-root\"><\/div>\n<p><script>(function(d, s, id) {  var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0];  if (d.getElementById(id)) return;  js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id;  js.src = \"\/\/connect.facebook.net\/en_US\/sdk.js#xfbml=1&version=v2.3\";  fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs);}(document, 'script', 'facebook-jssdk'));<\/script><\/p>\n<div class=\"fb-video\" data-allowfullscreen=\"1\" data-href=\"\/sidali.selloum\/videos\/vb.100002637661880\/826789604085621\/?type=3\">\n<div class=\"fb-xfbml-parse-ignore\">\n<blockquote cite=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sidali.selloum\/videos\/826789604085621\/\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sidali.selloum\/videos\/826789604085621\/\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Posted by <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sidali.selloum\">Sidali Selloum<\/a> on Thursday, August 27, 2015<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>Aikido, non-violence, and conflict resolution is not about being nice.  They are about compassion, live-giving, and joy&#8230; I realized Aikido could be about practicing joy when I was able to be in class with Sidali Selloum Sensei.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>Marshall Rosenberg (Nonviolent Communication) said, &#8220;A lot of nice people are responsible for some of the most violent acts of history.&#8221;  He believed that compassion and empathy is undermined when we did things because they were nice when the action did not come from something that gave us joy. Real &#8220;acts of kindness&#8221; must connect and nurture what is &#8220;alive in us.&#8221; Mitsugi Saotome Sensei would say Aikido is the same in that it is an act of &#8220;preserving our co-existence.&#8221;   <\/p>\n<p>Sidali Sensei is one of the most martial aikidoist I have had the chance to practice with.  The video above is a great example of aikido&#8217;s emphasis on self-defense.  While Aikido is a practice of stopping violence, Sidali Sensei helped me understand that Aikido can come from a place of joy,that joy does not have to disappear when confronted with violence and most importantly that joy is a source of empowerment.  You can move and respond in a different place when your action comes from a place of joy. <\/p>\n<p>In Saotome Sensei&#8217;s new book &#8220;A Light on Transmission&#8221; he quotes O&#8217;sensei as saying, &#8220;unless you find your practice of Aikido enjoyable, you will find it very difficult to grasp its deeper meaning&#8230;&#8230;&#8221; and goes on to say, &#8220;for me it means enjoying the paths of the gods.&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Posted by Sidali Selloum on Thursday, August 27, 2015 Aikido, non-violence, and conflict resolution is not about being nice. 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